I once briefly dated a guy who turned out to have a gf. I did not know the entire time. What a jerk he was!

Now you DO know he has a gf and why exactly are you texting and talking? You can't say you two are friends as you only met twice.

I just realized that you are the same person in love with t and then having abusive bf and now this guy. You go for men who are already taken and/or not good people (as your BF and now this dude) . You need very intense therapy on the subject not the kind of therapy where you worry about how to get t to date you but the one where will work on your issues (explore family dynamics learn strategies etc etc)

I spent most of my adult life attracted to wrong men either unavailable or bad people. I am only now exploring it in therapy and am trying to heal and grow. Don't wait until you almost 50 like me (never too late though!) and try to get better now! Please.