I have been seeing a therapist for the past 6 months, and she thinks I have avpd, and I'm in agreement to a large extent, but I'm not shy, I have a good career and nobody would realise I have any issues unless they try to form a relationship with me! Then the problems surface. I Can't be vulnerable, or depend on anyone, in fact I just can't love anyone or trust anyone. This is how i have been all my life, like most folk here, I had a pretty grim childhood and never felt love for my parents but in order to survive I became superficially compliant, while keeping my real self completely hidden.
So I just wonder if Avpd is really grown up version of inhibited RAD,