PaulaS:

I apologize if it appeared that I was attempting to diagnose you. It was not my intention, but I can see how it could appear that way.

I think T's specializing in personality disorders (including the disorder I've been disagnosed with, which I can proudly own) are best suited for managing clients with attachment difficulties. I believe you deal with attachment issues as evidenced by some of the questions you ask of your T. There is no judgment in that; I have attachment issues myself!

This is an example of the type of thinking I believe may be working against you. I don't think the statement was problematic "because it was based on speculations." Every interpretation my T makes is based on a speculation, which I then consider carefully to determine if it 'fits.' This is the basis of therapy. Is there any interpretion she could make that would not be based on speculation? Or is it only those that you don't agree with?

I encourage you to be open to the feedback provided to you from your T. Question it in a non-judgmental way. Is there any basis to her speculation? Perhaps you do have negative transference due to your poor experiences in the past. That's not necessarily a bad thing, it's just a reality. But what you do with it makes all the difference.