Words have a range of meanings, some cultural and some personal. There is room for a variety of perspectives and one does not exclude the others. I actually don't really care what I am called or thought of because it rarely comes up in actual practice. Just as I don't care about what I am called in terms of title or name. When interacting these things are not really in the picture as central. I do notice when people have strong feelings about such things. If someone insists on being called by a formal title, for instance, I wonder.