But I see people NOT asking "how they think things are happening". They ask specific questions.

I've seen people posting, for example, why would a therapist say they had appointments, then suddenly, not have them. Many people answer and respond to the OP question. They do ask specific questions. But then people will start analyzing everything about the person instead of addressing their specific question. I do it too, not being a hypocrite here, but why complain when someone doesn't want answers that they didn't ask about in the first place?

I don't think people realize that sometimes their replies can be unwelcome, intrusive, and even controlling. So someone asks for opinions, and because it frustrates those who want to offer additional advice--advice not even sought--why are their feelings more important than the person seeking support?

I guess overall, i don't think those unhappy with not being able to provide unwanted advice trump those unhappy with the unwelcome advice. That's where I see moderation can be useful. To represent both sides of the coin. You can't make everyone happy, but there is a middle ground I suppose. And if there is an imbalance, I think it should lean towards the person asking for support, not those insistent on forcing unwanted types of support that is clearly distressing the person seeking support.

Like I said, start a new thread about the subject and debate it there.