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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987
I guess I get baffled by people who offer advice and suggestions and then seem to get so offended when the original poster doesn't take the advice. The advice offerer (LOL) then says something like well just stay stuck in your awful life and I won't respond anymore. It seems so narcissistic to think that you're going to solve someone's problems on a message board just by offering unwanted (most of the time) advice. I'm not saying just blindly support someone in a self destructive lifestyle, but why offer advice over and over if someone isn't receptive? And then get offended? It makes NO sense to me.
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I don't disagree with you, puzzlebug, but where I have a problem is when people post and ask for feedback, and when they don't like the feedback, they get angry or dismissing. Personally, I think that they have a total right to NOT accept or receive the feedback as something that they want. BUT, guess what, they can't pile on and dismiss that feedback as wrong or ill conceived. What works is to graciously accept and talk about what the poster is talking about. Heck, it isn't about agreeing with what the person says! It's about discussing or reacting to the comment of the editor.
I'm estimating here but I'd guess that many of the posters here on PC are people who have struggled with mental health issues for a long time. .. I sure know that is the case for me. I've worked hard to get to a stable productive place in my life. I want to "pay it forward" to other people who are suffering from mental heath issues.
Personally, I don't offer advice or personal experience to individuals who aren't receptive.. . .okay, I've made a few mistakes here on PC. But when I see what is happening, I typically back out. If someone doesn't appear open to what I have to say, I back out. I miscalculate that sometimes and that makes me sad. I sincerely want other mental health people to benefit from what I've experienced both physically and emotionally.