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Originally Posted by Jaybird57
I don't disagree with you, puzzlebug, but where I have a problem is when people post and ask for feedback, and when they don't like the feedback, they get angry or dismissing. Personally, I think that they have a total right to NOT accept or receive the feedback as something that they want. BUT, guess what, they can't pile on and dismiss that feedback as wrong or ill conceived. What works is to graciously accept and talk about what the poster is talking about. Heck, it isn't about agreeing with what the person says! It's about discussing or reacting to the comment of the editor.
I'm estimating here but I'd guess that many of the posters here on PC are people who have struggled with mental health issues for a long time. .. I sure know that is the case for me. I've worked hard to get to a stable productive place in my life. I want to "pay it forward" to other people who are suffering from mental heath issues.
Personally, I don't offer advice or personal experience to individuals who aren't receptive.. . .okay, I've made a few mistakes here on PC. But when I see what is happening, I typically back out. If someone doesn't appear open to what I have to say, I back out. I miscalculate that sometimes and that makes me sad. I sincerely want other mental health people to benefit from what I've experienced both physically and emotionally.
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Good post and very true. I don't get offended when someone isn't receptive to my responses. I hope they'll eventually reach a spot when they are able to see things and move forward because I've been right and fortunately have moved forward, but I feel pain for people who are in such a struggle and can't yet see the forest for the trees so to speak. I feel so badly for them. Been there and definitely don't want to go back.
I think most people here are very kind-hearted, caring individuals who are just trying to be helpful. None of us (well most of us apparently) are not therapists, so we are going to miss the boat, but we mostly seem to have helpful intentions in mind. Berating people who are trying to help, even when we don't get it "right" isn't terribly understanding or supportive either. We're all just lay people here working only with what the posters tell us and our own personal knowledge and experience. That shouldn't negate our efforts to be supportive, even when it doesn't fit your own definition of supportive; supportive comes in many forms and trying to navigate what kind of support any one individual needs here on this forum is often a bit of a crap shoot. I rarely see anyone here who is clearly setting out to harm anyone. That needs to be remembered.