I have never found that clubbing others, no matter how well intended, helps them most of the time. Good intentions have done a great deal of harm through out history - often in the mental health field. I am not comforted/reassured or nor do I feel supported by people who become insistent on their idea of saving me from myself or their idea of what is wrong with me or the right thing for me to do.
I think it is often very obvious which posters want the advice and to be told what others think they should do pretty early on in a thread. And if that is what an OP wants, then great - have at it. But it is when the OP does not appear to want such a thing and others keep on at them that I wonder about it.
I very much do not want advice, or to be pushed or tough love or what ever one wants to label it. Such never makes me want to change what I am doing and is very much a waste of time and effort on the part of the other person.
Also, just because something helped one person does not mean it helps another. And I do find it sort of interesting when the insisters announce that because their brand of help was not embraced that they will take their good advice elsewhere. Why bother with the announcement? Perhaps that is just my thing because I don't ever feel like why I did not participate in a thread or quit participating would actually matter to anyone. Not in a bad way - just a sort of so what usual way.