I think you don't understand the purpose of this forum well, as you say yourself. And neither did I, when I started. I wanted to force my opinion on people, get them to start doing stuff, to stop repeating themselves. It was to the point I upset a couple of people and had to apologize to one or two through PM for invalidating them, which I begrudgingly accepted I had done.

Still, from time to time I offer a suggestion that turns out to be in some ways invalidating to the person. And myself too, from time to time receive a response that is kind of invalidating. But the fact that I have become aware of it, is that there is a general consensus here that the purpose of the forum is to validate others. This is primarily a support forum, not a debate forum, or a place to challenge intellectual views.

And if you see the validations as fake or mindless or equivalent of "there there", as you, perhaps you have to consider why you see validation that way, not assume that your view is necessarily the truth, and that other people are mindlessly validating others under this threat of moderator intervention. That stems from your misunderstanding. In fact, this forum is surprisingly lax and it is rare for moderators to intervene. I've been part of dozens of different kinds of forums over the years, and this forum is a fairly unique experience in that way, as you can make multiple threads about issues that bother you, and threads are allowed to go off course quite a bit before told to come back on. There is a casualness about it all.

But it's normal to have strong reactions to people's posts. That happens when people share strong feelings. Sometimes posters remind me of my mom who has borderline and narcissistic tendencies. Sometimes they're like my dad, like my siblings, even like me! I sometimes get angry and want to tell people to stop complaining or to listen or to whatever.

But then I realize something (sometimes too late but usually in time): First, these people are not people from my past. Second, I don't have to respond to all threads. In fact, I don't have to respond to any thread! I don't have to post a thread, to make posts, to thank or hug, to do any of it. People are free to say the same things over and over and make a thread about it every week, as I'm free to not respond if I don't feel like it. If I want, I can. It's my choice and it's your choice. Nor are other people obligated to respond to me or you.

If you look at it from that perspective, perhaps it becomes easier to participate, knowing the way the forum works and what people expect.