Attachment is difficult when you meet with constant rejection. I am just not good looking or very worldly when it comes to interpersonal relationships. I am shocked by the casual meanness of our society. To attach with others you have to fit in and be accepted. I have a very poor record with fitting in and being accepted. I am often afraid to speak my mind and pay the price for it. And, when I do, pay the price for that too. With me, everything is a no-win situation.

On thing that T's have never been able to help with is that, to me, feelings of love are met with dread. Yes, I can say that I understand those feelings come from parental rejection as a child and also as a teen and adult. Still, I cannot override those feelings because of years of rejection by others. I've met with so much rejection and abuse as an adult that just treating my childhood is not enough.