Taonuviel -- I believe some of the long-time moderators on this list have well-informed insights that are worth listening to. It can be very hard to tell people about the depths of our depression, because the disease is misunderstood (as being sad, moody, etc.) and stigmatized. If you didn't reveal everything to the ministers, they were giving suggestions on the basis of incomplete information.

As Dexter has pointed out, getting an assessment is a solid first step that is prudent to take.