It's not even "breaking up" or anything like that. We DON"T HAVE a "relationship." L approached me in a coffee shop, followed up with a phone call and some emails -- and before we could meet for ice cream last weekend, I was offending him by using words such as "date" (oh, horror of horrors, a man and a woman having ice cream together) and "depression." I've written a nice email to say "Nope" but I'm not even sure if I need to bother sending it or if silence is the best response.