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Old Feb 22, 2015, 11:33 AM
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Originally Posted by puzzle_bug1987 View Post
Sometimes it seems like there are people who just want "those" posters to go away if they won't take advice or do the "right" thing. They want to squash them and silence them and shut them up or shame them into doing what they think is best. Maybe it is with good intentions, but you know what they say about the road to hell.

Sometimes people need to vent and complain and go on and on until they themselves get to the point of making the changes they need to make. It would be extremely arrogant of me if I thought I had the magic advice to make someone do what I want them to do to get "better" (whatever that means anyway).
I absolutely agree people need to vent etc, but I am bewildered because I genuinely don't really see arrogant people thinking their advice ought to be followed??

I don't really get it?

As far as I see it - advice or opinions are given, and it is up to the thread-starter to choose if they want to engage with it, retort to it saying no actually you are missing the point, read it and consider it for later, or just read and feel less alone because somebody has gone through something similar.

A thread-starter can't control responses from every individual. This is the internet, it's a forum, if you post there is a risk you will hear stuff that does not expressly suit you.
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