But who is causing all this damage?? Where has this been happening?

Most threads on PC are incredibly warm and validating, from what I read - am I reading a different forum to you?

I really don't understand. I don't want to 'damage' anyone and I find your line about being able to live with causing damage to others a bit over the top.

And yes, I do put an extremely high value on free speech. Ignorance is not bliss. It is ignorance and pussyfooting around that cause insidious, slow rotting damage to people, imo. Talking about difficult things, trying to get the clearest views of the facts, identifying truth and possibly multiple truths of a situation - they are all really hard things to do, but that's where you're going to find the road out of hell.

This is completely different to the scenario above where the poster explicitly said she didn't want to discuss one particular aspect, and somebody railroaded over her. That obviously is totally crap. At the same time, it's quite easy to understand that by the time it gets to that stage, there might be a bunch of other people feeling unnerved or rattled or otherwise triggered by the thread and they feel what they have to say is equally important. Because of their own stuff. I don't think it's done out of badness, but from wanting to help but at the same time wanting to maintain our own individual okayness/ security when we read something that makes us feel a bit threatened? Human flawedness.