I do agree.

No is a complete sentence

I guess I rarely see posts outlining what they do want and what they don't want, in terms of responses, at the start. By the time they're saying 'no' it will have gone back and forth and off on a tangent and got messy and argumentative, and the person who is being told 'no' might feel they are being silenced, shut down or manipulated. The person saying the 'no' is not automatically more important than anyone else either, by merit of their pain. It's not a pissing contest.

For example, if I come on here saying my head's exploding with pain and I want to cut myself and I'm not sure if I can control how deep I cut - I will probably not be thinking very clearly and not remember to put in my post that I only want supportive comments and no ideas about how to move out of this headspace. If I get a deluge of replies with advice telling me to go to the hospital if I don't feel safe, and I get upset because I don't want to go to the hospital, I kind of have to understand that people might also be upset. If I try to shut it all down by going 'No', well sure, that is my right to say it, but it doesn't invalidate the other people's feelings - their distress is as valid as mine. In all probability somebody is going to feel strongly enough to urge me again to the hospital if I don't feel I can manage the self harm, even though I have said no.

I dunno. It's difficult territory for sure.