I don't think she does ask me clarifying questions. I feel like I'd like her to ask me probing questions when I don't feel she understands, but in fact I could just explain more myself, I don't really need her to do the questioning do I? Once I remember I her saying about something I described 'I don't know whether or not you...' It was only after woods I realised that it was a kind of question, she was telling me she didn't know and leaving it up to me to tell her if I wished.

I also would like your current T's approach of accepting your fear about home invasion. I fear that too.