Well I don't want to throw out vulnerability as a whole. I believe it is very important in your closest relationships. My problem is I learned a long, long time ago to not rely on anyone. It was a defense mechanism that was necessary at the time I think, but now it's just hurting close friendships that I desire to have so much. I listen, listen, and listen some more to everyone's problems, triumphs, etc., but then I'm not open with them at all in return and feel stupid if I ever am. The result is a relationship that feels superficial to me, while the other people remain clueless. I'm starting to burn out and feel incredibly lonely. Vulnerability is a good thing. You just obviously have to be careful to what degree you are open with different people (i.e. vulnerability with a good friend who really cares about you vs. someone who would hurt you or couldn't care any less). I'm not vulnerable with anyone, even my closest friends...That's what I want to get past.