Id send it to him....with no note or return address....he will know who they are from....

i can imagine how much it really hurt for you to deal with that...but i always say its better to do it to me now ..then later....its been four years....i am quite sure you have grown and matured and no longer have to deal with the crap youve put up with before....the sooner the better...but then again...im not sure how much advice you want to take from me....men are like doors...when one door closes...another one opens...and its a whole new bright experience....make peace with him and be happy that he found someone that was meant for him (then he might not be so meaner to her) and go look for that other door! Honestly if i threw out those videos....its more like the door is closed and your just trying to kick it in..if that makes since...nothing will happen by it....and youll feel probably less at peace then you started...if you run them over lol...well thats more like trying to bring out some rage that ...well just isnt there and doesnt need to be there...its not healthy for you....and if you send it too him...he gets something back that he truly appreciates....and he can have one lasting memory of the two of you...what if he threw away something of yours that you valued? It would just bring up bad memories...and probably fights that you just dont want to handle ...plus feelings would be really really hurt in the process....good luck on your discision as it is yours to make....you have my support...let us know how it works out...
love, inny