Hey there. I am going through the same and what helped me a lot was to find the exact reasons for my fear. What do you fear? Why do you fear it? Fear is a mechanism that should protect you, so what are you trying to protect yourself from?

I have relationship anxieties and my fears are very irrational (they don't make sense at all). They always lead to the same core: losing my boyfriend. My fear though is not that he would leave me, it is that I would leave him???? Which is silly.

So do what I do and think your fear through. For example: If I really leave him for someone else or if I do fall in love with someone else, it wouldn't be the end of the world, right? It would mean I didn't love him and that I wanted to be with someone else so why would I fear that?
I do because in the past I never could stay with a man. Every time things got close I would escape because I was not capable of trusting anybody. I couldn't be alone either, so my scheme was jumping from one relationship to the next, mostly after cheating.

Now I have a boyfriend for 3 years whom I really love. My boyfriend is the most loyal person I know and we love each other with all our hearts. Therefore I know the only way I could lose him is if I messed up (AGAIN, since that was my scheme throughout my life)

Then I started researching with friends and a counsellor last year what the backround for all this could be. We ended up seeing that my messy relationship with my mother, bullying in school and an incredible amount of insecurity and one incredibly dramatic breakup were the reasons for this.

I learned a lot about myself. Now I know the reasons for my fear. My boyfriend knows them. I told him everything, all my past and all my fears. He was understanding and loving. Now I have to find a way to tackle these fears so I am starting counselling again.

If you truly want to get rid of your anxieties, find its roots. Talk to a close friend, partner, parent or if you feel like none of them would understand, speak to a counsellor. you are DEFINITELY not alone. These guys know what they are doing.

I wish you all the best of luck. Don't be afraid, you are stronger than you think. xo