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Originally Posted by HisPresence
Thank you for your reply.
No, No, the butt cheek kiss wasn't always naked. He kissed my butt naked before, but there're times when I was not naked he still kiss it.
Like when I lay on my stomach in bed. I have underwear on, and he still kiss my butt.
I dunno, he just put his lips on my butt and give it a kiss. I just find it awkward. Perhaps I need time to get used to this type of stuff.
I dunno, it like I'm not use to affection. Another example I feel kindda awkward is this.
My hubby he works 12-14 hours shift everyday, so perhaps he miss me.
Everytime he back from work, if I happened to be in the kitchen. He would lift me up onto the kitchen countertop and give me a long kiss. Again, I thought it was kindda awkward.
We have a huge height different between us. So usually he have to lift me up or bend down to kiss me.
You see, other women they would be thrill if their husband do this to them. But I don’t feel thrilled.
I don’t know what is wrong. I don’t know if this have anything to do with my mother abandonment me, so subconsciously it haunt me. I know it my problem.
I have No regrets choose to married him though. He is an awesome husband, it just I'm under alot of 'emotional stress" from my mother, and it not letting me enjoy my marriage fully on the "emotional" level.
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Doesn't necessarily need to be naked, it's still intimate--strangers certainly wouldn't do it!
And the lifting up thing...that is something you may see in American movies or television. I see men who are much taller than their significant others do it. I am 5'10" and my ex-boyfriend used to do it.
What it sounds like to me is that you are, overall, just not used to intimacy in general. This does not have to be sexual or romantic. Again, I stress the importance of communication with your husband about this. I believe that, if he is on the same "page," so to speak, with you about it, meaning if you are both of the same understanding of where you are in terms of your understanding and comfort level with it, then you can come to be more comfortable with these little displays of affection. Americans tend to be more demonstrative with affection than other cultures (and less so than others). It also sounds like hubby's primary "love language" (the way he shows/gives love) is physical touch. What would be okay with you to show him you love/are thinking of him? Do you like to do things around the house for him? Give him gifts? Tell him nice things? Spend time with him? There are various ways we demonstrate love for one another.