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Originally Posted by Luned
I told myself, that to find friends, you have to be a friend to someone. Be interested in others, see how they are, what they are doing, if they need anything. Basically the same thing that you wish for that someone else would do for you.
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Agreed. That is how I met my husband. Just trying to be a friend, online. I felt some other kind of connection/attraction, but didn't express it as he was much younger than me. Turned out he felt the same way.
But, yes, doing that, I totally agree, is the way.
I had a bizarre and very hurtful ex-friend experience yesterday. It's too much to say right now, have to process it a bit more. Enough to say that I take LittleDidgee's point, that turning other ways, in my case inward, seems like a good direction of focus. I'll take people as they come, not expecting friendship of the kind I idealize, ever. If it comes, it comes. And leave the past behind more, in some ways.