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Old Jun 04, 2007, 10:38 AM
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Bootiebear,

First I am very about your mom and I'm glad you are getting some therapy.

I wonder if you have told your therapist everything about all the men in your life? If not, it definately needs to be discussed.

In my opinion, it sounds like alot happened all at once, your mom - your husbands parents, etc. and that you had trouble with dealing with it all and got comfort from a stranger that later became your fiance.

It does not sound like a healthy relationship at all and it sounds like you know that. You really haven't said any good reason of why you are with him. Your mom pushed you because he was more prestigious, you went back because he changed for a few days?

There definately sounds like there are issues with your own insecurities since you admit that you left the fiance and immediately went to someone else.

In my opinion, the best thing would be to stay alone for awhile, become self-sufficient, confident of yourself, and discuss all of this in therapy.

I ended a 10 year relationship 3 years ago and I am still alone. Am I lonely? Yes!!!! But, I also know that I don't like myself enough yet to be able to enter into a relationship - I'm getting real close, but I want to be right with myself first.

Something I read somewhere reallllly struck me - it said "Are you the person you would like to date?". I realized my answer was no, so now I'm striving to be that person.

I send you lots of positive energy and I hope you can make sense of your emotions and feelings through therapy.

I also thank you for being trusting enough to share your story - I am honored to hear it.

Tranquility
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