Hi Angelwngs, I'd say that it doesn't really matter what's "normal", try to forget what other people might think, it's your wedding/your up-coming marriage........so it's about what's right for you and your fiance/what you both want.
So if you want to wait three/four/five years for a specific wedding that's fine, or if you both want to get married next month somewhere "nice" but "lower key", that's fine too!!!
And you know if it's "lower key", then it can still be amazing, because the main thing is about how much the wedding itself means to both of you.........the love you have for each other and the commitment you're making to each other. And you could always renew your vows somewhere like DisneyWorld somewhere down the line, if you wanted to!!!
But yes, just whatever you want.........and don't worry about "the norm" or "average"'s..........you can set your sights higher than that wherever/however/whenever you choose to get married, right?? It's going to be extra special given your relationship, regardless, yes??!!

Alison