Haven't had to play damage control EXCEPT for the break up 5 years ago. and I hurt HIM so bad I am still kissing butt making it up to him. I think he is relieved because it was only recently that we both came to the conclusion that ONE alter left and a different more capable all around alter returned to him 6 months later. That capable person stepped aside knowingly so Jake could take over and handle the death of a deal male friend and his grieving widow and her childrens needs. Jake has done a spectacular job and is thoroughly happy to be out again. And compared to the other less capable alters who all have their place to appear and then vanishing, we are all considering making him the leader of the pack, We worry less and have more fun with him around. Although, LOL he abhors house work isn't much of an organizer and needs to work on that LOL