searchinginthesouth, Hello and welcome to PC. I am sorry to hear about your situation with your boyfriend. I agree that counseling would be a really good thing. I also think that some time should elapse before you make any type of commitment with him. While I cannot really tell what to do, I can say that committing to someone who has been keeping such things in secret would be a bad idea for now. I can only imagine that you are still very much in shock. Take some time to get that counseling and wait before you make any big decisions. The community liaisons and moderators are here for you should have any questions about how to navigate this site. Best wishes here at PC.