Go ahead. Have your pity party, Hon. You're entitled. Don't forget, though, the longer you stay the harder it is to get out.

You're not alone and you ARE being listened to. I can't vouch for anyone else, but I know *I* am here!

Something to think about and remember. Depression is one of the worst liars! It lies to you about Everything and makes you see and think things that aren't true. I know that for a fact because Depression pays me visits every so often.

"feel ignored," - Feelings aren't facts. They're neither good nor bad, they just are.

"abused," Present or past? If it's in the past then it's not happening now. It's over. You're safe. If it's in the present, call the police and get them to help you get out of it.

"no one cares," I care! Lot of us here care! PM Soidhonia and ask her to help you get in touch with other's that help and can get you out of any abuse happening right now.

"life ripped apart by a man who should have known better." He DID know better but he chose to follow his sick instincts.

"ruined," You're not any more ruined than I am. The abuse can make you a better, stronger person. When you've worked through it with the help of a T and those that care for you, like me, you'll be more loving, caring and understanding.

"never protected by either parent," Neither was I. It still hurts, but you can learn to protect yourself better than your parents ever dreamt of doing!

"kids grown, not needed" Yup! Me, too. You ARE needed, though! YOU need you! Your life isn't over whether you believe it or not. It's YOUR turn now! It's your turn to do as you wish, become what you want to become, to get to know you and love who you are, who you can become and love the person YOU are becoming!

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