yep, this is a forum for frank and open discussion.

i can see someone asking this question for a variety of reasons...maybe trying to come to terms with "maybe it's not *that* rare and i can get support for issues regarding this if i need", curiosity for future use when making decisions, or whatever. there could just be a number of reasons for it.

i agree, if something is triggering or "over the top" for one, it's usually best to move on to something that you can feel comfortable with as opposed to responding in disapproval. that can cause the OP to feel bad when they expect to be able to post within the guidelines. in the same right, we have to accept possibly reading that which is allowable within the same.

i'm responsible for my reactions to reading here if something is within the guidelines...especially in a forum like this one. i think people in this forum have done GREAT in letting the general membership know what the content of a thread is about to minimize surprise due to the different sensitivities on the subjects in and around sex.

BTW, I'm not addressing that to anyone here, just addressing concern that Sandy appeared to have.

Nice everyone.

KD