I agree with this. I wanted to be more optimistic and lean more with the previous posters, but I do believe that there is a deeper issue here which he must resolve on his own. And I think that means without you, for now. Maybe that's not forever. But I think that if you are to have any future together, that you two need to take some time apart and separately seek counseling. Couples counseling is all well and good, but I think that his need to frequent prostitutes more than a dozen times while apparently committing to a life of purity before marriage is something he needs to discuss with a counselor on his own, and maybe with a group of strong, Godly men.

I was once a fundamentalist Christian committed to waiting until marriage--that is not my life any longer. But I understand how important it is to you to have this life for yourself. So don't allow him to try to sweep anything under the rug, and don't try to rush back into anything. This is a big deal and needs intervention from your church, your pastor, and a group of people you trust to come along side of you and support both of you. I would hate for him to slip back into this while you are married, and for you to not only end up betrayed but end up catching something that he's brought home with him--it can be very dangerous for you. If you do end up marrying this man, he should be tested for HIV and STD's. It's very important for both of you, and even for your future children, to be sure that he is healthy.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you; I can't imagine. Please take care of yourself. I wish you the best. Please keep us posted.