PRIMAVERA101, You sound very much like a good mom who cares about her daughter very much. We just cannot change the behaviors of our loved ones. I am sorry that you are hearing such awful things being said by your husband as well. Take a deep breath and realize that the control is not in your hands. You can still love her but not play her games. If she gets you to cry then she is winning.

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