I think that since all clients are different, there will never be a time when all therapy is the same. In fact, one reason why therapy is more effective today is surely that there are more different varieties.

But yeah, perfect therapists are as much of a myth as soul mates!

As for my personal experiences - the first T I was in contact with many years ago was super cold, unfriendly and distant - I only saw her one time. Her first degree was as a social worker. My first "real" T, whom I went to for therapy for five or six months, was a psychologist before training as a T. I recall her as being friendly but rigid, and I didn't feel that she understood me very well. Second T, whom I saw for about eight months, was a clinical psychologist before her T training; she was kind but did not live on my planet at all, and she had very strict rules. My third and current T is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist, and he is warm, genuinely invested in my well being, and the first health care person ever who has taken the time to actually understand me. He does have rules and boundaries but very few of them are not flexible. I think he could be open about his personal life if I were to ask him questions about it, but I genuinely don't want to know and he doesn't volunteer very much. Which is appropriate since it would make me less able to be open with him.