HI, Sadmommy..
I'm glad you feel safe for now. I, and I'm sure others here, have been thinking about you with concern.
It does not bode well that a man would react with physical violence when challenged on any level. I actually do not think you are so safe! If you anger or challenge this man again, you may find yourself once again at the receiving end of physical abuse. I hope you have talked to your counselor about this.
It sounds like you are keeping the peace by not ruffling his feathers in any way. That is probably a smart choice while you are there with him.
Patty