Good morning Granite. I just read stuff from yesterday. I don't think you were complaining or that you should just feel lucky you have friends to do stuff with. I was thinking that you have a right to say "sorry but I can't make it this time" and to have friends who say "I'm disappointed and will miss you but I understand".

The hard part is how to get your friends to understand when you say no not this time that you mean it. To me it's like training... You will have to do it a few times before they get it that their whining and guilt tripping isn't going to work...and that no this time doesn't mean no never.....

it is hard to withstand the whining and guilt tripping from your friends but you are an adult and you do get to decide...

Also I dont "put up with you"... I enjoy reading your stuff... You are a great person.