My first thought was that lip service, such as titling a parent that cares, as 'bad' is subjective and out of the mouth of someone not getting their way.

What mom, doesn't stress? And then to have her father, whom she confessed was physical with her, say the same? Incredulous.

You uprooted your life, when she was younger, so she could be closer, to her father. That's placing her needs above your own. So what, you couldn't be a sahm, doesn't mean you weren't looking out for her welfare. Job paths ensure security, regardless of what it is/was.
I like the idea of touching base, weekly. Even, if one sided. Let's her know you are there. She's an adult now, no law states you must provide for her, financially.
Sad, that she doesn't see her bf, through your eyes. But just step back, let go.



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