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Originally Posted by InvestmentBankingPl
I am 21 female and have not had any friends for 10 years. I am high achieving and am scoring really highly in my degree in Economics at LSE. It is not the work that is getting me down, it is companionship. When I was at school I cared but not as much about not having any friends because I was the highest performing so I saw it as necessary to my success. Now I am at university my peers around me all have social lives and boyfriends and I so it hurts more now. I tried making friends but seem to have a perpetual block for the last 10 years. I don't think I will kill myself - a desire for success and my family and my dog are protective factors. What should I do?
I used to snort cocaine every week or so when I was 11-14. I have been clean of everything inc alcohol and cigarettes for last 7 years.
A psychiatrist noticed at a play group when I was 6 I seemed not to look at other kids and not know what to do.
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From all you have posted here, it seems that you want to primarily focus on your work and advancing yourself, not finding or making friends. Being career oriented is admirable, but won't find you many friends.
I think what Gayleggg was suggesting was a hobby that included socialization, for example a ski club. My friend has been in a group that focused on snow skiing. I know that is specific but she has had friends from that group for years and met her husband there. So just playing piano or doing the martial arts type hobby is not necessarily very social. Also a hobby is something you ENJOY! It does not have to be productive. Its value is simply that and possibly the bonus of finding a friend or two.
Just my observation is that you seem to discount any ideas given you right away. I know my son is highly intelligent and would be the same way. He has no social life either. I have trouble making friends too, even though I do try. Being open to suggestions here is the only way to start to get help or heal, or find friends.