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Originally Posted by SkeletonHeart
Uhm Idk how to help, I mostly feel like a loner. lol. But try to do something that makes you happy, like a hobby or soemthing fun. Go watch movies, go do something fun, hope i helped sorry if I didnt.
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Yeah, hobbies and fun stuff are always good.
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Originally Posted by kaliope
when i was trying to leave my marriage, i felt guilty because he appeared on the surface to be such a "nice" guy. i had to compile a list of all the terrible things i had gone through with him to give me the strenght to get out so i would stop thinking about the "good". as for the abandonment, my feelings would be hurt too, but i get over it. im not diagnosing here but you mention two things, strong feelings of abandonmnet and putting people on pedestals. both are traits common to borderline. have you talked with your therapist about this?
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Maybe I ought to sit down with myself, write out how awful she actually was, and read it every time I find myself idolizing her in order to break the habit.
It's also hard because I feel stupid that I would pick someone like her let alone stay with her when things turned sour. I'm ready to be done giving her mind space.
I did tell my therapist that I idolize her. My therapist is also aware that I suck at letting people go, but I never mentioned feeling abandoned specifically. That's not the first time someone suggested I have those traits though. Nonetheless, if I do, it might just be traits and not the full thing.
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