I'm in the same position, though my education isn't as rigorous and I'm mostly focused on battling depression and getting valuable experience in fields I like. I pretty much just socialize with my instructors, people online, and occasionally my family, but I feel like I'd be more motivated and happy if I had at least one person to enjoy a break for dinner with once in awhile instead of retiring to yet more time among books or at the computer. Going days without hearing a human voice that isn't on YouTube sometimes is not healthy for me.
I get along with people and can make them smile, so I don't think my personality is simply unpleasant. I don't have a lot of time or funds for traveling to meetup groups scattered all over the metro area, especially the ones that don't have a real schedule for meeting. Meeting friends online hasn't gotten me results, either. The only option that still holds some weight is forming my own group on campus and trying to advertise it to like minds.
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Originally Posted by avlady
i am sorry for your situation. do you have high expectations about the people you want to associate with? maybe people don't feel they are good enough for you or can't live up to your standards? you sound professional and state you are smart, sometimes smart people are hard to make friends with. i hope this helps.
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I've been told this very thing by someone else: my intelligence is intimidating. I think it sounds like the kind of excuse that comes from a kid, that they're just too cool and smart for all their peers. Maybe it's true, though.
Either way, I find it sad that people will use smart people to fix their problems (computers, etc), but avoid them if they don't have a use for them.
What does it say about our culture that people who reflect and write in complete sentences are intimidatingly intelligent... ? It's not like I've ever been to a chess competition or am studying to be an aerospace engineer.