I've had a similar experience with my daughter's after I quit coaching them and we ended up changing team at the end of the season and taking a break all together for one season. It's discouraging for everyone.

As a former coach (although, I coached girls), and now a parent watching others coach my daughter's, there are so many coaching styles. Some coaches are very passionate about the game and are intense when coaching, others are laid back. I've watched practices where coaches yell all practice but during a game, they don't say one word. I myself tried to keep everything positive and fun (it has it's upsides and downsides in doing it that way). Maybe if there is an another parent that shares your view point, or another asst coach, (other than your husband-he may think you both are ganging up on him), I would almost suggest a male parent since he is a male coach; Maybe they could speak with him over a beer/drink after a game/practice. He may not be as defensive in a casual setting (face to face with another male watching a sports game) and take a look at himself and his style of coaching and find an inbetween that satisfies everyone. I coached with another man, but we both had the same coaching styles as far as being positive and upbeat with the girls. We had our differences and valued each other's opinion in doing something differently, because in the end we were coaching for the kids benefits, not ourselves. Best of luck with it.