And yes I have seen how bad people in the mental health field can be about BPD. A long time ago my mom and I encountered a psychiatrist and later a therapist who were absolutely awful and very stigmatizing about BPD.

And I didn't think anything you said was harsh or blunt. You've been through a lot of difficult stuff; anyone would feel a bit jaded from that. But it sounds like you have a lot of insight and courage to be posting on here in the way that you are.