Awww... I'm sorry your T session didn't go so well today. It seems like a painful bit of irony that you were *trying* to be nice (by not burdening T when she seemed sad and tired, and not crossing boundaries), but that it *seemed* to backfire and bug her more.

Do you think, in retrospect, you would have done anything different? I'm wondering if maybe it's OK to reality check stuff like this - and let T worry about the boundary (i.e. it sounds like you're trying to police her boundaries for her, but she doesn't need you to do that - and if you do that regularly, you end up missing out on a lot of possibly good interactions because you're being too careful!).

And, for the record... omg can I relate (re: trying to be good, but feeling like I'm messing up stuff more because of it). My T asked me a few sessions back to name one thing that I'm *good at*. I couldn't... so he pressed, and told me surely I could come up with one thing.

My eventual answer was... "Uh, I think I'm good at ruining therapy!"

Anyway... don't quit over this! T's make it their life work to help people who are bad at relationships, they know what they're in for, and they signed up for this. This is definitely, very much much, not "quit-worthy".

*hang in there*