Hey there bb,

I don't want to sound harsh, but speaking from (a somewhat limited experience) I don't like it that your current fiance is treating you like that (and I don't think you like it either!). You shouldn't be feeling so down in a relationship, a romantic love is supposed to (again just in my experience) lift you up and make you feel like you can do anything you want to. OK, so nothing and no one's perfect 100% of the time, true. But it sounds like, for you, the bad outweighs the good.

OK, so if you want advice, I'd say leave this one, and don't talk to him again. Hold off dating, or getting back with your ex-husband for a while (six months- a yearish) while you work on you and your issues with your T and improve your self-esteem. If your ex really wants you back, he'll wait.

Less drastically, since you obviously love the guy you're with, maybe consider couples consuelling or similar?

Anyway, whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best, and I hope things get better.

- Meander