I am continuing to discuss with my T the fact that I feel she ignores how I see things. Sometmes I have tried to say something and I have felt that she did not understand what I had been trying to say, I gave her a specific example of a time when she thought I had meant something different. She didn't acknowledge that this had happened and the next week said that I feel that she does not understand because of my mother. My reply to her is that she is ignoring my reality. She says she looks at things in terms of the unconscious.

What I feel like saying to her is : you've been doing this so long I think you've forgotten about listening to the client first. Also you have so much valuable insight, but I need something else as well. When I said you didn't understand what I meant when I said X I wanted you to acknowledge that you didn't understand me then.

I'm in such indecision about whether to continue with her as I feel she is invalidating, and it feels wrong. When I say this to her she doesn't agree, not surprisingly. I have a dream of a T who really spends time understanding how I see things - but then would something else be hard? I don't know whether, if I keep on and on discussing this with T if we'll come to an understanding, or will it cease to be important to me? The main thing we discuss theses days is the things I'm unhappy about in our relationship.