Yes, I think that's what I want it to be like, too. T can tell you things until the cows come home, and then she can tell the cows, but unless those things resonate with your reality, they won't necessarily do anything to help you.

Of course a client (I'm not saying this applies to you, Brown Owl) might have views or opinions that are harmful or far removed from reality, and a T might want to try to help the client change those. But again, that requires that the therapist first gets to the point where they know and understand what the client thinks and feels!