I trust you all, so I am sharing this email I just sent to my Mother.
This was very difficult to write. It was a long time coming.
I feel relieved, but also very very sad.
I feel in my heart it was the best thing to do.
If this disturbs anyone here, I am sorry.
If it can possibly help anyone here, I am glad.
Thank You All and may we all continue to get better and better

The letter is as follows:

For reasons that you do not have the capacity to understand, I have decided not to deal with you in person or by phone.

This was a difficult decision to make, but I am sure it is the right one.

You are a liar, manipulator and under-miner and I can have no peace of mind with you in my life.

I thought that there could be a healing between us, but I know that will never be.

I have sought help for my dis-functionalism my whole life, but you have not.

You do not trust me and I will never trust you. You have always been incapable of giving me emotional support. You use material gifts in your pathetic attempts to compensate.

There is no trust between us.

When their is no trust, there is no love.

I have found a healing.

After getting to know you (and Dad) I now know why I was insecure, had no self esteem and did not love myself.

I could go into great detail about these things, but I would be casting my pearls before swine.

Needless to say, I will not be going to the wedding.

I realize that you will probably use whatever you can against me, but I will not placate you out of fear.

Perhaps I will communicate with you in the future.


* My Dad died last December.
My Mother left him when he was deathly ill 15 years ago and married his best friend.
I never held that against her. They did talk sometimes after her second husband died 5 years ago.
My Mother shunned her entire family during her second marriage.
My issues are between her and me. I have no resentments. I feel free