I'm sorry this is all falling on you and that you're being asked to put her needs before yours as a good life lesson of sorts (I think that's the part that bothers me more than anything). Do you have a deadline for if things don't turn around? Because I would (but then again, I am like that). In fact, if I could swing it, I would have taken the chiro appt and cancelled therapy, except that she would see it as passive aggressive instead of the practical move it would be.