(((loulou2014))).....Your husband sounds like my dad. We have had suspicions that he may be narcissistic. Sorry you have had such a hard time. It hasn't been easy for my family either. I feel for you. This is not to say your husband is narcissistic but here's a link you may want to check out, and then perhaps let hubby read it:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Symptoms | Psych Central
Best wishes!!!