(((Sunrise)))

Yes, having a child in therapy is soooo difficult. When my son was 16, he was in therapy and I rarely spoke to his T. I went to great lengths in choosing the T, even so far as switchnig T's for him several times but once they formed a bond my husband and I backed off....Now he is in therapy again, but he is now a young adult.

However, because of his illness, and the fact that he lives at home, there are times I need to get information to his T. So, what I do is call her and leave messages on her answering machine. I don't speak with her personally and don't ask her to call me back. She doesn't feel the need to tell him because she is not talking to me. I think this works for us and so far, no repercussions from son. When he has a pdoc appt., the pdoc calls me into the session during the last 10 mins or so....here everything is in the open. Again, though, that is due to his illness and the need for transparency.

Good luck, Sunny, this is a challening situation.