Fizzle kid, Hello and welcome to PC.

Thank you for your story. Which ever way the violence happened that is not going to be good for a healthy relationship. The drinking is something that you may want to get help with. There are many 12 step programs available like AA (alcoholics anonymous). Until the drinking is under control, it is hard to start fresh with anyone. Also seeing a counselor about the cheating would be essentially important. I hope that you seek professional help so you can get to the root of these problems.

Welcome to PC. I hope that you find the answers that you are hoping for. If you need help in navigating this site feel free to contact a community liaison or moderator.

Best wishes here at PC.