The oldest daughter is 20 years old here. We have been talking a lot lately as she has her first therapy appointment and im the only other person in the house in therapy. Its nice i see a lot of similarities but one i dont have(least i dont think i do) is the warped perception of reality. Is that normal for being young or is that part of depression or anxiety? She truly remembers things differently than they happened(or seems to sincerely believe it,maybe deep down she knows its a lie?). Like the fight she had with her mom. Everyone in the house other than her thinks she started it and prolonged it. She thinks her mom started everything and anything she did wrong it was in self defense. Or like her younger sister,she will do things ALL the time for the oldest. The oldest never hardly ever does things for her. The one time she doesnt do what the oldest wants she flips out and names the last thing she did for her(even if its months ago) and how she will never help her out again. Then starts saying she ALWAYS does stuff for her and she never helps her back. Thats not how it is in reality tho,its exactly opposite. She also has no patience at all,,im assuming thats somewhat normal for being young tho.

One thing im worried about tho,,is if she goes into therapy and tells the therapist what she percieves as the truth,,how will the therapist know whats true or not? Im not worried about being the bad guy,,heck i am a bad guy The part im worried about is how will the therapist ever figure out she warps it? He has to take what she tells him at face value not?