I did couples therapy when I was married. Although, I think it was probably pointless. I had caught my exhusband in a lie a year and half after we were married, and it was something he lied about a week before the wedding.

I just wanted to end it, but because he threatened to kill himself I went to couples counseling.

The first session, the guy actually said he didn't see an issue. The second session he asked what I thought marriage was - I said trust, sharing, building a life, etc. He asked my ex and he said "everything she said, but I should also be able to do what I want with my half of the marriage without her permission". Well the T saw the issue then!

The third and final I went in for 5 min. to explain to T in front of my ex that I was moving back home and if the ex killed himself that was his issue and not my fault. Then I left the T to deal with him.

It's tough to hear negative things and not be defensive. Sometimes the T is right and it hurts other times they are just off base.

Hope you feel stronger soon.

Tranquility