That's really interesting. I do have a preoccupied attachment most of the time, but it's only been with emotionally unavailable men. (I don't think my T is necessarily emotionally unavailable IRL). My transference and preoccupation gets really intense in these relationships.
I've always felt he has this really alluring ambience about him. But I am thinking more of that comes from me than him. I've thought about what some here have said, and I think it was innocent, maybe playful. But maybe he has some kind of unconscious seductive thing going on. Hmm.
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Originally Posted by Ididitmyway
This kind of behavior on a part of a therapist creates unconscious interpersonal power-play dynamic between a therapist and a client that interferes with the work, because it makes a client preoccupied with a therapist instead of focusing on her own personal material she needs to work on. This is one of the things that contribute into making transference unnecessarily intense and destructive rather than helpful.
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